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There's no sense left in sense  

partygald 41F
3082 posts
9/18/2018 10:27 pm

Last Read:
9/25/2018 9:03 pm

There's no sense left in sense


Sigh. Okay, here we go. A good friend of mine came over for a visit a few days ago. Normally I'd be more than happy to have her around, but the circumstances that preluded her trip out wasn't....good, to say the least. She's getting a divorce, after more than 20 years of marriage.

Now I suppose divorces are common enough these days, but this one hit me kinda hard, firstly cos she's a very close friend of mine, and mainly, cos I didn't see this one coming. I had last met them in the tail end of last year and I knew they have had problems, but they seemed like they would work around or past it. I really wasn't expecting them to split. Also, rather selfishly, I kinda felt sucker-punched by her situation cos it reminded me of my own. The husband and I are still on a break from each other and it has been more than a month.

We see each other, but very sparingly, with his constant travels on top of my own. But we FaceTime and text each other a few times a day, and that seems to be working out. We are still working through a few things, but. guess the good news is, we are working on them. But anyhow, back to my friend's visit.

By the time she made it out here they had already filed and her now soon-to-be ex husband was packing all his things to move out. To facilitate that she flew out here for a few days. She called me a few days prior to arriving, told me her story, and of course, I promptly went out to meet her. She had booked a villa in Seminyak area, which is relatively far off from where I am, so I stayed with her for a few days. She told me what happened, there was no exchange of ideas, no cry on the shoulder, none of that. I was there just for support. We went out shopping, went to several beaches, and even hit some clubs. There was no booty calls, although, to be honest, I was half expecting it

But anyhow, that's my earthquake on top of the earthquakes I've had to experience lately

On a side note, we were lazing on one of the beaches one morning and she had got her phone out to take a picture of something. It reminded me of how many pictures she used to take, and so I asked if she was still sending pictures in for bikini contests. She used to be a regular contributor to a few online bikini contests, and even received quite a few free swimsuits as a result.

What she told me next was a bit of a shocker. She told me the swimwear companies that ran these on-going contests, had banned her. For showing too much skin. -_- I mean, Really?! Its a barking bikini contest!! And they sell a range of micro bikinis! TO say I don't get this is really an understatement. But yeah, makes no sense.

Ah well, more madness to fill this world. I mean, why not? -_-

partygald 41F
1963 posts
9/18/2018 10:28 pm

Sorry, the mood in this one is a heck of a lot sombre
But!!!! Let it not be said that I'm unappreciative. Heh...

If you read through it, thanks for stopping by!


sexboy882ie 26M
1 post
9/18/2018 10:53 pm

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RavenGB 63M
1430 posts
9/18/2018 11:02 pm

The key to a successful relationship is good, honest communication - it always was.


MyBaffies 54M
4983 posts
9/19/2018 1:28 am

My brother's separation came completely out of the blue. I felt sorry for the kids, but side for a couple of things they've done OK. And now he's remarried, I've gained an absolutely brilliant new sister in law.

Yes, I imagine it's not a fun thing for her to go through, just hope they remain amicable enough to make it as least stressful as possible.

That's a bizarre way to run a contest - are they run by Fuckspace.com - Sex Dating / Swinger Community by any chance?!?!?

Baffies

Link to my blog: MyBaffies


ClitLickB4DickU 65M  
1392 posts
9/19/2018 3:23 am

Sorry to hear about your friend and how it came on top of your own difficulties

Hope you bounce back and grasp life by the throat once again......her too


Pleasureinc 60M  
2200 posts
9/19/2018 4:18 am

Sounds like you are a good friend for her.


discreteSteve62 50M
2169 posts
9/24/2018 8:23 am

Best wishes to her and her soon to be ex. Dating again after a long time as a couple is difficult. If she just needs sex, maybe not so difficult, for a bikini contest woman. But dating for relationship candidates is difficult for anyone.

My first wife and I split after almost 18 years. I think pretty much everyone was surprised; even we were. We had discussed our main relationship problem for at least three years, but had gone on anyway.

Someone (now on his third marriage) had asked me, "How have you stayed together for so long?"

I replied, "Complacency."

We both laughed, but it wasn't really a joke. We were great friends, so it was easy to just stay together and ignore the problems. We communicated about the main problem, but didn't do the work to resolve it.

Fortunately, we were able to split without a lot of hard feelings. I miss the friendship we had.

I hope your friends' split goes peacefully for them.


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