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Why do I keep doing this to myself? :/
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Why do I keep doing this to myself? :/ Heck, I wasn't sure I wanted to post this. Especially following up my earlier post. Cos two posts in a day?! That's an absurd, too much time spent in here! Uh....oh! Right. I was saying. Some fantasies should remain as such, fantasies. There has been Soo many examples of trying to fulfil them, only to have them be ruined to the point where it's not even fun to have them in your head anymore  There's a Caribbean-themed restaurant/bar that I've frequented a few times in the last week or so. I had friend in town and she liked the food so we've been there three times in the last week. There's a young black guy working behind the counter that's quite cute. We chatted for a bit on my second visit and I find out he's actually from Trinidad and Tobago. That has nothing to do with anything, except that I found that to be interesting. What a long way have travelled, but I guess work beckons. So anyhow, my last trip, he gave me his number but I never called, or texted. I have toyed with the idea though, but mostly, cos I didn't get to hook up properly with my fwb (who's also a young, black guy) when I was last back in Singapore. So I figured, this must be me just looking for a substitute. I gave it a pass. Yesterday, late afternoon I was in the supermarket and I noticed this tall, athletic looking guy from the corner of my eye. I didn't look properly cos I didn't want to be too obvious. This guy then walked over and tapped me on the shoulder. Turns out, it was my T&T (that's Trinidad and Tobago) from the Caribbean Club. He asked if I would join him for a drink at a nearby bar for a quick drink before he had to run home to get ready for his shift at night. I honestly didn't think it would take long, so I agreed. We sat on one of the tables outside and we had a cocktail (I have no idea what it's called, but it was pretty good. And it packed a punch ) and basically watched people go by as we talked. There were a few people that walked past from the beach and he motioned towards a few ladies that past, and mentioned to me how he really liked the side bob. Like he preferred that over the conventional cleavage. I chipped in as well, and of course the subject matter got more sexual as it progressed. This went on for a while more before he mentioned that he actually lived close by (it wasn't that close). He asked if I should like to keep the conversation going while we went back to his place so he could change and get ready for work. I thought, fuck it. Let's do this. So off we went. We got back to his place and on the way up the stairs, he was tugging at my shorts. He tugged them low enough it came down halfway, and he saw that I wasn't wearing underwear. He rushed me through the front door, bent me over a table, pulled my shorts all the way down and started eating me out. I felt a bit self conscious cos, well, you know. I would have liked time to prep But I got distracted by how....haphazard he was down there. He was licking me one second, then tongue fucking me, then licking my ass. All in the space of a few seconds. He got up, pulled my top off and directed me down to his dick. I was already kind put off, but I thought, okay...lets just go with it for now. I pulled his pants down and his dick sprang up, literally, like a spring. Before I even went close, I could smell him. I can't believe I actually thought about it But I finally told him no, lets go shower together. This whole sweat and pee stench, not doing it for me. We jumped in the shower, and it was tiny, so we kinda took turns. I just made sure his dick was scrubbed clean and led him back to into the living room. We passed his kitchen when he grabbed me by my waist and lifted me up onto his dining table. He came in closer and I told him to go grab the rubber. He was all, "oh, I don't have any." So I told him, look, I don't know you. Well, barely know you. You're cute and all, but no rubber, Nooooooo waaaay. He started whining about how he didn't have time to run down to get. I'm like, that (pointing to his dick) ain't going nowhere near this (pointing to mu own crotch) without protection. He looked like he was about to either cry, or explode in fury, which was actually, quite scary. He just whined a little more and we ended up laughing. He then offered to finger me off while I jerked him off, but he was waaaaaay too.....rough and clumsy (the stick two fingers and jam and yank as hard and fast as you can technique. Seriously. Where do they get this? Where does it say that do THAT immediately and it will feel good -_- ) It was horrible. I told him to stop, and I played with his dick a little bit but he too couldn't cum. I got dressed and left. I didn't even bother waiting for him to leave together. So yeah, THAT didn't go well. At ALL. |
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Needless to say, running into him again at the supermarket will be awkward...
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In these liberated days, maybe a couple of rubbers in your purse might be a sensible precaution - mind you, from your description of this encounter, not having one to hand was probably a blessing in disguise!
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I admire the guy's confidence (I'd never feel inclined to ask someone out at the supermarket) but glad you still have principles when it comes to that kind of thing. From your description, sounds like he was being on the selfish side of things. Maybe it ended that way for the better in hindsight?
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Yeah.....youthful exuberance isn't always a benefit.......better old n slow  And WTF is ANYBODY thinking these days about Bare-Backing a stranger.....even your good clean self  Truly the blood MUST have all flowed from his Brain to his presumably enormous T&T Dick 
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If that is the way he interacts with women, no protection anywhere, red flag. I agree with RavenGB, always carry your own.
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I'm guessing you may not be going to the Caribbean restaurant for a while. Sorry for the bad experience.
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Too bad that the reality fell so far short of the fantasy. I suppose the condom conversation is never part of the fantasy, but it's a necessary part of the reality in non-exclusive sex. Where did he get his ideas about the haphazard oral and the rough fingering? I'd guess from porn. It's orchestrated to hold the viewer's interest, and slow and steady just doesn't work when the porn script says that the whole sex scene needs to be seven minutes from the start of the foreplay to the (does anyone do this in real life?) external ejaculation. (Apparently the porn industry has determined that porn viewers like to beat it for about that long before they finish.) Anyway, it's not easy to fit cock-sucking and several positions of P-in-V into seven minutes, particularly not if they add cunnilingus to the script. In the guy's defense, at least he tried to go down on you. My guess is that he was trying to do the right thing, but just didn't know what to do. If you had the patience, you might actually be able to train him to get good at it. But someone who is careless enough to neglect the wrapper probably isn't worth being patient, particularly after the uncomfortable first encounter.
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