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flowerkings2012 60M
4312 posts
7/16/2018 6:29 am

Hmmm, tricky, and not as clear cut and black and white as at first seems. It really does depend; is it a hook up and NSA scenario? Is it a genuine affection for FWB but not a dating scenario? Part of it is surely fluff and exaggeration even though we may just deceive ourselves about our honourable intentions.

It depends on the talk and the words, though I would genuinely like to assume that if I was in bed with a woman, it is because of some form of connection and chemistry brewing and worth getting drunk on again.

I would also like to think if a mistake was made and i had no further interest, I would avoid beng cruel and find a dignified way to ensure both parties parted without any ill feeling or regret or sense of being used or humiliated.

Pretty sure words i would use with you would be accurate... as long as you were wearing that little tartan skirt and black top


2017Up4You 56M  
165 posts
7/16/2018 6:57 am

I cannot recall ever telling a partner something in the heat of sex that was not exactly how I felt at the moment. I don't say things that I don't mean and feels that as a gentleman it isn't useful to say something negative about a partner. If the chemistry isn't there...and the subject comes up about a next time, I will try to avoid saying something that is truthful but not hurtful.


JohnnyD580 63M

7/16/2018 7:05 am

Depends whom I with.
If I'm simply Topping it's almost a unspoken duty to be generic.
When I'm with my Princess and I'm talking her down from sub-space, cuddles and baby talk is a must.
As a rigger, some rope bunnies need special attention to come out of the scene, some pros pop right up. I always check for injuries though.


redmustang91 64M
9760 posts
7/16/2018 7:23 am

I go with the feeling at the moment. It is how I feel then. What happens later remains to be seen.


storkjwr18 48M

7/16/2018 7:28 am

Everything I say is truthful...That being said there are certain things I don't say before, during, or after on principle


Michaelmjblucas1 54M

7/16/2018 10:21 am

From my few experiences, I admit I've said some things that were fluff. Afterwards, I felt different. The mind, in all it's heightened senses of sex is very influential

Being curious and asking questions is a good thing!


wd40w 71M
6966 posts
7/16/2018 11:40 am

In any kind of communication...Honesty is always the best policy...I'll be in the Garage...

"Illigitimi Non Carborundum Est" W.F. "Bull" Halsey wd40w


Whatsitgoing2B06 63M

7/16/2018 11:34 pm

Should always say what you feel and mean. No need to wonder later on what you said in the heat of the moment.


TB5758 65M/67F  
577 posts
7/17/2018 2:30 pm

In my case I am only with my wife so clearly I mean everything I say! No need to bullshit after 43 years.


914Bigbear 59M

7/17/2018 4:07 pm

It's not what's said during or immedietly after that matters but what's said before and the next day.


MDForever619 45M/41F

7/17/2018 4:17 pm

Never. Only gets you in trouble down the road.


Trapper69 66G
2657 posts
7/17/2018 4:18 pm

I try to be truthful at all times, but sometimes it's best to tell a "white lie" to avoiding hurting a woman should she ask certain questions......


bitchkitty2017 71F

7/17/2018 5:01 pm

I never say anything I cannot take back and do not mean..talking dirty still does not mean you have to say what others feel is what they want to hear..if a guys dick is not hugh I don't insult him by saying that it is truth and measured words wil be better in the long run


kentbull 54M
9 posts
7/18/2018 3:02 am

Always mean what I say!


Nordic_Trainer 53M

7/18/2018 4:06 am

Always be truthful!!


TopTwentyPercent 60M  
317 posts
7/18/2018 6:43 pm

Pillow talk is so overlooked. So many people want to rush and be on their way because they don't want to fight through the awkwardness that can occur with a relatively new partner. I take this as a great time to break through and let them get to know the real me. The one that doesn't want to get in their pants once, but I would rather do so over and over and each time become better friends. Who knows? A craving may even develop and FWBs are born at bare minimum.

It is all about attitude, approach and presentation! What is your AAP?


AndyNotts2000 38M

7/19/2018 1:33 am

it really depends - sometimes you do say what the other person is clearly asking you to... but overall i prefer to be honest


Milon2050 28M
80 posts
7/19/2018 2:07 am

I admit
naked truth


Spiked_Log_Trap 48M
296 posts
7/19/2018 4:59 am

What a great conversation starter! Congrats on getting so many to respond!


owatonnamark 64M  
18 posts
7/19/2018 6:23 am

I like to tell my partner what it is that arouses me. love rimming and love telling her about it


Funguy13916 67M
40 posts
7/19/2018 9:14 am

I like to keep it real. To hard to keep track of the lies.


prohibitedtyme 46F
201 posts
7/19/2018 6:08 pm

I don't talk during 99% of the time. It has to be just that damn good to get me talking, and I haven't had any THAT good in over a decade. But I made a disclaimer with him...what's said in the heat of the moment is not to be taken seriously and that the GREAT sex made me have Tourette's


Superman4695 39M
168 posts
7/19/2018 9:41 pm

Not going to lie so if you think your ass looks big in that dress don't ask me.


ronaldwhennen376 63M
15 posts
7/19/2018 11:07 pm

I rather fuck then sleep


1025mws 60M  
677 posts
7/21/2018 9:12 am

If there is pillow talk, I mean what I say, and say what I mean! Other wise I do not try to say anything while fucking or making love


brandini734 29M
179 posts
7/21/2018 9:35 am

I always try to be as honest as I can so whenever I say something I really do mean it.


slowrider8649 59M  
189 posts
7/22/2018 5:00 am

I generally speak from the heart and try to always be honest. In the bedroom being flirty, teasing I may stretch the truth a bit. I would never outright lie as it's not nice to play with peoples feelings and emotions. Sometimes your on top, sometimes on bottom always be respectful


Anything182 57M

7/22/2018 5:40 am

I ask for more


Hardone371970 53M
12 posts
7/29/2018 8:24 am

I all about saying what I mean. If it wasn’t great and I am not going to meet again. Even if it ruins the moment after I have to say so.

I would rather be upfront so folks know what they are getting and no falsehoods.


niceguyniceunit2 53M

7/29/2018 2:52 pm

At the time, I mean what I say....


subson4dadd 38M

8/8/2018 5:43 pm

just be real with me...!!!


Manopausing2 58M

8/11/2018 10:32 am

Depends on the woman...


discreteSteve62 50M
2169 posts
8/24/2018 5:29 pm

I keep things honest. If it was spectacular, I tell her. If it was good, I tell her. If it was merely OK, I say something nice that's not related to the act.

In a long-term relationship, there's more room for constructive criticism.

In a recent session with my wife, she really enjoyed the oral. She almost always does (except once in a while when she ticklish or otherwise not sensitive in the usual way). That time, it was good even compared to the usual really good, though not quite into "best in a long time" territory. She even came during the intercourse part of the session. Sometimes that means she could have used some more oral, but other times it means the oral got her so aroused that it didn't take much more to make her come again; in that session it was the latter. However, when I started to come, she kind of misunderstood a signal, and she slowed to a stop as if I had finished, rather than just started. That kind of diminished the physical pleasure for me. Of course, the experience of giving her oral that really worked well for her accounted for a lot of my pleasure, and just being together was good too.

The literal pillow talk, when we were lying on the bed together, was all praise. But as we were getting dressed afterwards, I did mention that she stopped a bit too early. And she took it as useful feedback, not a complaint. So next time she's in charge of setting the pace, I'll remind her not to slow down too soon. And I'm sure she'll do the right thing, because she's as attentive to my pleasure as I am to hers.


HotNReadyManX30 43M
130 posts
8/26/2018 2:20 am

When it's just you and me being naked, I don't act in a pretentious or untruthful way. I want to keep our conversation real and truthful. That's how I build understanding, trust, friendship, and passion.


Sthlakegent76092 52M

9/5/2018 5:27 pm

Truth...who has the energy to lie at that time.


mutualbenefit69 49M
201 posts
1/5/2019 7:30 pm

i only say what i mean. no reason to lie. some responses are fueled by alcohol or just the moment. can me more vocal or less vocal. also more talk if i know she likes hearing it


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