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Inclusive or Exclusive?  

redrockrascal 65M
8395 posts
10/26/2018 7:39 pm
Inclusive or Exclusive?



The people on these siteS are in effect a grouping of people based on a variety of sexual interests. I use the term siteS specifically, and often, because some people here are not aware that what they are seeing is a single database comprised of many different site names (hundreds) and groups such as: religions, nationalities, ethnicities, sexual preferences, likes and dislikes, among a slew of other possibilities.

So we all know what these 2 adjectives mean . . .
“Exclusive” means “either this or that, but not both.
“Inclusive” means “either this, or that, or both.”
Further . . .

Inclusive involves the full and successful integration of diverse people into a place or group. Additionally, inclusive groups extend beyond basic or token presence of different people.

Exclusive restricts, limits or rejects people, or groups of people.

So . . . if a group is exclusive who does the group exclude and for what reason(s)? Then, once that is decided . . . do we exclude those who like, but are not part of, group A or B or C or all of them? Remember someone in an excluded group may be someone we like or may even meet or . . . more. Maybe they are the elusive “one” – but you’ll not meet them because they were – excluded. That’s all pretty complicated and it doesn’t even address . . . unknown and/or unintended consequences.

Oh, and who makes the decision to exclude what group(s) of people?

Me, I really a pretty simple person. With being inclusive none of those decisions have to be made. You just log into the site a do what you want to do and ignore those who you aren’t interested in – pretty simple. There is an advantage in being inclusive. For me, as a guy, I get to appreciate and experience all kinds of different women because none of them have been excluded. Also, since no one is excluded there may be more women and more women afford me, and other guys, more opportunities to meet and have . . . sex.

So what say you do you prefer the site be Inclusive or Exclusive? If exclusive who would you exclude and why?



When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


lonlyforlove2 81M
32704 posts
11/22/2018 8:24 pm

At my age I would have to be "Inclusive" just not enough time to weed out anyone...the more friends the better...

A lot of thought could be put into this but why skip out on something that might be good as gold because it just didn't meet some arbitrary criteria..

Have a good evening, trying to digest my lunch, so I can get started on left overs..

Stop by at lonlyforlove2
also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow
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also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'


luvgluv19 75M

11/22/2018 7:52 am

The wider the inclusive the broader the out look and things to discuss as adults


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
11/12/2018 8:03 pm

    Quoting Rede4mor519:
    Absolutely should be inclusive. Leave the excluding to personal preferences.
I completely agree. Thanks for commenting.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


Rede4mor519 65M/61F  
9 posts
11/12/2018 6:42 pm

Absolutely should be inclusive. Leave the excluding to personal preferences.


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
11/1/2018 3:23 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    I just figured out where the f..king bathrooms are in this place . . . What ?
    Yeah . . There is a lot of stuff going on that I just stay away from .. But if there is a buffet . . then I'm all for inclusive !!!
Yes the buffet is included - don't forget to tip your waiter.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
10/30/2018 8:49 am

I just figured out where the f..king bathrooms are in this place . . . What ?
Yeah . . There is a lot of stuff going on that I just stay away from .. But if there is a buffet . . then I'm all for inclusive !!!


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
10/29/2018 3:59 pm

    Quoting lindoboy100:
    The ability to exclude is not necessarily an indicator of exclusivity. In my own experience, it is merely an indication that the excluders are dicks.........

    There are secret groups and groups within secret groups and groups within groups within secret groups..........and they are exclusive........aye, they're also dicks.

    Inclusivity, now that's the mark of a true gentleman. Which makes me a dick, because I exclude trumpists/fascists.
What you say is quite true McKilty. However, there are times when exclusion is necessary - for instance excluding trumpists/fascists and other forms of assholiness.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


lindoboy100 61M
23969 posts
10/29/2018 2:12 pm

The ability to exclude is not necessarily an indicator of exclusivity. In my own experience, it is merely an indication that the excluders are dicks.........

There are secret groups and groups within secret groups and groups within groups within secret groups..........and they are exclusive........aye, they're also dicks.

Inclusivity, now that's the mark of a true gentleman. Which makes me a dick, because I exclude trumpists/fascists.


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
10/29/2018 10:49 am

    Quoting citizen4722:
    If this site was exclusive, I'm guessing it would certainly cost more?
Yeah, I imagine it would.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


citizen4722 66M  
74582 posts
10/29/2018 9:19 am

If this site was exclusive, I'm guessing it would certainly cost more?


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
10/28/2018 11:32 am

    Quoting  :

I was referring to the site but thank you for your input.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
10/28/2018 11:31 am

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    Great blog Red and you nailed this one, I am not choosing either as I am just here to have fun for the most part. In the past here on the site have met many wonderful people. I hope you have a great weekend..
Thanks T

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
10/28/2018 11:30 am

    Quoting  :

No fries I watch my figure but I'l have a shake

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
10/28/2018 11:29 am

    Quoting pagancountrygirl:
    " Also, since no one is excluded there may be more women and more women afford me, and other guys, more opportunities to meet and have . . . sex."
    Works well from the women's perspective, too. Even though the men outnumber us, being exclusive may just keep "the one" from being on this site so there would be no chance to meet and have....interactions. lol
Good point PCG.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


superbjversion2 68F  
24388 posts
10/27/2018 12:35 pm

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    But, but, but, football and boobs are a great combo
Well, when hanging loose, mine are rather football shaped.

Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!


Tmptrzz 61F  
107039 posts
10/27/2018 10:01 am

Great blog Red and you nailed this one, I am not choosing either as I am just here to have fun for the most part. In the past here on the site have met many wonderful people. I hope you have a great weekend..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


pagancountrygirl 66F
6466 posts
10/27/2018 6:59 am

" Also, since no one is excluded there may be more women and more women afford me, and other guys, more opportunities to meet and have . . . sex."
Works well from the women's perspective, too. Even though the men outnumber us, being exclusive may just keep "the one" from being on this site so there would be no chance to meet and have....interactions. lol

Pagan
Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
10/27/2018 6:56 am

    Quoting Naughtypursuit:
    I like to think I am inclusive but have to admit that no I am not always. There are things I draw the line at.

    You are included.... though
YAY, I'm included with you . . . uhmmm . . . what's included with that deal?

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
10/27/2018 6:54 am

It looks like all of us are included in liking inclusiveness

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
10/27/2018 6:53 am

    Quoting MyBaffies:
    Makes sense to be inclusive. And if there's anything I dislike, then I'll use the site filters so they don't show up in any search results.
As long as you're not baffled by it

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
10/27/2018 6:52 am

    Quoting s2ndegree:
    It certainly helps to be
    inclusive. There's really no doubt that the
    inclusive are more open minded and the exclusives
    not so much so.

    There are the exclusively inclusives that kind of
    contradict themselves but where they make it up is
    by being extremely illusive!
Ha ha I see what you included there . . . inclusive, exclusive, illusive

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
10/27/2018 6:50 am

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    Wow! I am way too stoned to understand what saying, but Inclusive me in!
I am way too stoned Thee are words I never thought I would hear from you.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
10/27/2018 6:48 am

    Quoting  :

Yeah, somehow I don't think my parents would approve of this place.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
10/27/2018 6:46 am

    Quoting superbjversion2:
    I like things being inclusive. That means I can visit your blog - even though I don't like football. And I can visit that coffee lovers blog even though I don't like coffee. And you can visit my blog even on the days that I don't show my boobs.
But, but, but, football and boobs are a great combo

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
10/27/2018 6:45 am

    Quoting  :

Yay! Cause I lurves interacting with you

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
10/27/2018 6:43 am

    Quoting  :

Yup, inclusive works well.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
10/27/2018 6:43 am

    Quoting FMAOPLS:
    I think it should include anyone who wants to be here.

    I don't have to interact with them, anymore than I have to agree with them
Exactly

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
10/27/2018 6:42 am

    Quoting  :

Greed is guud even on a sexxxuh siteuh

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


Naughtypursuit 56F  
2766 posts
10/27/2018 6:08 am

I like to think I am inclusive but have to admit that no I am not always. There are things I draw the line at.

You are included.... though


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
10/27/2018 2:37 am

    Quoting FMAOPLS:
    I think it should include anyone who wants to be here.

    I don't have to interact with them, anymore than I have to agree with them
Well said! I agree


MyBaffies 54M
4983 posts
10/27/2018 2:19 am

Makes sense to be inclusive. And if there's anything I dislike, then I'll use the site filters so they don't show up in any search results.

Baffies

Link to my blog: MyBaffies


s2ndegree 65M
9800 posts
10/26/2018 11:15 pm

It certainly helps to be
inclusive. There's really no doubt that the
inclusive are more open minded and the exclusives
not so much so.

There are the exclusively inclusives that kind of
contradict themselves but where they make it up is
by being extremely illusive!

Using more than all the road!


mc_justmc 63M

10/26/2018 10:38 pm

Wow! I am way too stoned to understand what saying, but Inclusive me in!


superbjversion2 68F  
24388 posts
10/26/2018 9:20 pm

I like things being inclusive. That means I can visit your blog - even though I don't like football. And I can visit that coffee lovers blog even though I don't like coffee. And you can visit my blog even on the days that I don't show my boobs.

Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!


FMAOPLS 70F
27112 posts
10/26/2018 8:38 pm

I think it should include anyone who wants to be here.

I don't have to interact with them, anymore than I have to agree with them

Check out my profile or and become a "watcher" of my blog FMAOPLS,to learn more about me, and for intelligent, lively, smartassy and fun discussion, with a little irreverence thrown in. "Like" or comment on my photos, and I promise I'll add more. Thanks.


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
10/26/2018 7:40 pm

a bump post so this will be included on "the big list".

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


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