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Bitter? Say it isn't so.
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I started way too late at a place like this or at least that's the general consensus.I used to write a blog here and to me it's been worth the gold every year.Reading about others lavishing themselves in gratuitous sex is about as sexy as listening to some long running discourse about someones ex. The pulse of this place was the blogs and the forums and a stop at the funny pages. I haven't found a call to message anyone with any intent here for a very long time. I just can't quit though.No home groups have any open meetings.I can't even find a nooner to go to, let alone finding someone to sponsor me. It's going to be a tough road to h....I mean it'll be difficult to stop! That was close! Using more than all the road!
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Have you considered men experience the same thing(s)? Those men capable of satisfying your quest for interesting, enticing, mysterious conversations that tantalize and create desire are the men who leave first. They're smart enough to recognize the limits and restrictions in the usability of the site. Including the reality of women here who are either married, attached, gay, bi and pure lesbians who hate men - from the get go. Then there is the double speak and women looking for a specific man who fail and refuse to talk to anyone that doesn't meet their specific objectives. If I remember correctly, your profile once indicated a military man and no others were allowed to speak - I could be wrong. Others, ignore real men because they don't post a face pic. The double speak in that has been women (with 50 pics) who openly chastise them for not posting a face pic - then turn nasty defensive because the same man made the astute observation that in a total of fifty pics, not one of them included a face pic of her - just a lot of T&A as if anything else doesn't matter to men. The funny part here is the woman who writes "I want to be recognized by my intellectual capacity" (paraphrased) but demands a face pic w/o ever reading his profile or considering that successful professionals (some with six figure + salaries) just looking for a normal woman with similar sexual/sensual interest don't really need to post a pic or find someone via the internet. Not if he also expects to be judged for his intellectual capacity and not on aesthetics. Ect, etc, etc... Then there's the incessant flirts, come-on's and communications from 32 year old women (always 32) who demand an email or phone number to initiate or continue communications. Its a scam! The worst part (besides being ignored) are the punks and chumps that treat the site and women like a meat market to be plucked, cooked and eaten. The only thing worst than that is women who draw their own conclusions like... "all men are looking for younger women" and "all men fit this punk stereotype" - nothing is a bigger turn-off! Hell, I'm just looking for signs of intelligent life" with the ability to communicate. If she can't manage reasonable communication at any age, sex was never on the table in the first place [ men have standards too - but don't anyone tell women this - its a waste of time because they just don't get it ]. Consideration beyond 10, extended to 15 and 20 years younger only reflect an aging man and limited or diminishing resources in their own age group. Otherwise, I'd prefer higher or a difference of 10 or less even if I'd consider younger, with young children, if there was signs of life, intelligence and reasonable communication skills. People come here with tunnel vision. A specific criteria (they can't find in the real world) and refusal to see outside that box. But it takes all of two minutes to realize site demographics are more than 100 males to every 1 female profiles. Meaning, women still have the advantage and yet they fail and refuse to leverage that advantage. I still read, "men are suppose to approach women". Its the 21st century for christ sake's and that hasn't really existed since the 1970s and its not appropriate expectation on a dating site for adults. Wouldn't that mean its the women's own fault. In your area of CA the ratio is probably 500:1 making it all too easy for a woman to ignore all comers and make their own choice by reading a mans profile and reaching out to the ones that they may be interested in. Even if it was to have a simple conversation and ability to learn more. Men have been doing this since the beginning of time when the internet was not around. At that time, I even encountered women who believed (truly believed) that any man that offered her a drink or tried to strike up a conversation was only interested in banging her head against the headboard from behind. Opening a conversation in chat or IM apparently means the same thing. Perhaps its you, not you or the site but in how the site isn't used for all the benefits and possibilities its technology offers. I'm not bitter, its just a really good observation of "reality". That reality is, women are not an island in and of their own - men suffer the same challenges. And the absence of using the technology to your advantage in finding whatever it is you seek has nothing to do with the site, or the crappy men that approach on you. just food for thought
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I feel the same way. A few years back I enjoyed interacting with a number of the regular bloggers who actually posted something meaningful. Sure most of it went over my head but it was a nice read even if I didn't feel compelled to write a response. But now... It's a struggle to find something interesting to read. And I'm having the same problems myself - trying to come up with something interesting to write about, which often means I end up not blogging at all. It's the hope that keeps me here I guess. The hope that I'll chat with someone interesting and it leads somewhere - yes it's happened before. However I think one day I'll just give up, delete the profile and log off one last time.
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"I keep holding out hope that our beloved wonderfully thoughtful, insightful, interesting bloggers come back... but no... " Dang girl..... now those of use who've been here blogging for years are feeling like chopped liver!
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Maybe things will get better. But the influx of nonsense resulting from Craigslist shutting down its personals is kind of ridiculous.
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As they say in Cork.........just like the Guinness, I'm bitter....... I reckon the splammers are destroying this place for us with their constant, un-ending drivel and sycophantic 'interaction'. Bejaysus, even the top splammer makes up fake profiles to comment on her own posts to boost her comment count........f'n weirdo. But hey, why do I keep coming back? Well, people like you McPapi, you make this place interesting and worth frequenting, that's why. Hasta la victoria, guapa.......
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perving and whinging are very therapeutic. Its good for the soul. Just don't get carried away with it.
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a touch of biters can make a drink tasty...…..grins You cannot conceive the many without the one.
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