what it is to ask (part 2)
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Posted:May 29, 2014 8:03 am
Last Updated:Apr 18, 2024 12:25 am
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After writing this post I came across a few more thoughts that led strait into the same question as before. We as a people not only forgot how to communicate but we forgot how to communicate with ourselves too. When you ask what do I want, most people can't even break it down to specifics in any category,( i.e what do I want in sex, love, life, people, mate, my job) which compounds the problem immensely.
We also a s a people love to make blanket statement as if shooting a shotgun in the air as to make sure we can hit what we are wanting by covering everywhere weakly and making sure it is not not pointedly offensive too. ( i.e. I want sex) Well that's a start but it is so broad a statement that it is confusing and we don't know what it is we exactly want and with an instant gratification society we are not willing to take to long to experiment, not to mention that experimentation takes resources, money and time, especially time and money which a lot of us don't have an abundance amount of  So in our confusion we become choosy. Not so much a problem but we do so hastily and with snap judgements and most often then not we bypass the consequences in favor of a greater reward at the end.
In our struggles to find what we want, we not only lost the thrill of the travel and the adventure but we have at some wrong turns and bad choices become cold, greedy and at times cruel and mean to people. We didn't want to or choose to but we occasionally do so and really only the ones who have kind hearts and minds will make amends afterwards.
The biggest thing I see is that we as a people are afraid to try, for heaven forbid we succeed then we don't know what to do with ourselves.  I say to that if it works and I get exactly what i was striving for GREAT you achieved it. Now there are some who are miserable with their choices after they get exactly what they wanted because it is not exactly what they though and to that I say CHANGE IT. For the second biggest fear next to success is change. Ugh...I am willing to try , not give up and experiment as long as I can to get what I want even if people tell me I am too old, weak, dumb, fat, too silly to do these things because WHEN I get there I will be happy and awesome for I will enjoy it a long time, reap the benefits of it and learn what it is to set new ideas because that was one of the two goals, the other is to enjoy and learn from the travels. I will get there  ....it will take some time...
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What it is to ask...
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Posted:May 28, 2014 4:23 am
Last Updated:May 29, 2014 7:39 am
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Hello there,
As I have been learning about myself over the last few months I have come to a conclusion that has been taught to me and now emphasize to me as well. "What do I want?" and more more importantly "why don't I ask for it or go get it?"
I find it this society we don't ask for much, fear of being labeled as selfish or needy and at the same time we don't convey what we want especially to the people who not only mean the most to us but to the ones who could really, possibly help us in obtaining those dreams and goals. For instance, if you want sex, you kinda have to find a way to convey the message without asking for it, (considered pushy, rude and not romantic ) and find a more subtle way (not sneaky) without taking it (forced, non consensual) but at the same time find a way to make it assertive and sexy. It becomes a delicate balance that requires practice and finesses. Although I find it sad that people can get it without doing this and rather easily I might add too.
It has led to a practice that people kinda have to read signals and interpret them correctly on what people want without a simple communicative response of what do you want and more importantly the ability for someone to ask the question to themselves and get a real answer. It is as if we forgot and lost the ability to ask ourselves the questions for I find a lot of people can't answer that question for themselves...
What do you want...?
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What is too much sex...
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Posted:May 22, 2014 5:31 am
Last Updated:May 22, 2014 1:20 pm
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Hello all, I pose an interesting question. First off I believe that a majority if not all people want to have sex at least once in their life. The question I pose is how much sex is too much? For me I would love to get it once a day if possible and two or more times a day if I am especially horny. Is this considered excessive or normal? Am i dreaming or do I have a realistic, achievable goal? I know that most people would prefer, if given the choice, quality over quantity and most likely would strive for both if reachable.
I am curious on what everyone's thoughts are on this subject for me, I love human interaction and contact so once a day is extremely enjoyable. Also it doesn't have to be with the same person either, the joys of being poly But I find that time is a big factor as well as your emotional state and the emotional state of your partners. The other concern I have seen in others is that once a pattern is established on how many times people "get it" it is often hard to break that pattern and throws off a lot if disrupted alas taken for granted and like clockwork. For some this is welcomed in their hectic lifestyles that a planned date for release is included 
But again I am more curious to see what peoples thoughts are including what you would consider what is too much or excessive too?
Thank you
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Desperation and me...
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Posted:May 16, 2014 9:00 am
Last Updated:May 28, 2014 4:05 am
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I love sex. At the same time I really don't get a lot of it. I agree that it is mostly my fault but not all of it. When a person gets desperate for something, they wind up doing strange and sometimes harmful things just to get said desired object. Unfortunately people can see and know this and some also unfortunately take advantage of this.
What I would like to know is how to do two things myself. One, not define or treat my object of desire as an object and two, not to become so desperate and dependent on it. I find that both objectives are a little difficult especially if some of the people around you do the same thing as you are trying to break yourself from.
I would really like to know what people feel about this and how they would react to this. For me, I have almost broken myself from the concept that sex is an object, a payment or something that is owned or owed to someone. I still love sex but it is a mutual, flowing feeling between people both male and female, like water it can be channeled, flowed, intensified, quenched, focused and unfortunately , squandered, lose control, destructive and dried up. It can both help and harm and needs to be treated with some respect at least.
But still I would love to hear from people on how they view it
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practice makes perfect...
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Posted:May 7, 2014 9:16 am
Last Updated:Apr 18, 2024 12:25 am
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It has been more then a few times I have come across people who, if given the choice of either a) not so good sex or inexperienced vs b) no sex at all and frustration a lot of people choose b. For me I value and crave a persons touch immensely and would try to make every encounter good for all but I am also a male who doesn't think that there really is such a thing as bad sex if both people are truly trying and caring about it.
I admit that I could use a lot more practice but a lot of people I come across are impatient and really don't want to practice or try. if you are not 110% awesome then you are kind of pushed to the side. Now there are some who think they are 110% awesome, but truly are they satisfying both themselves and their partner? A few times I have felt really bad if I have disappointed my partner in the least bit, mostly because I care about them. I just wonder just how many people feel like I do...
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trying to keep it simple
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Posted:May 7, 2014 1:46 am
Last Updated:Apr 18, 2024 12:25 am
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I love sex. I believe everyone loves sex and loves to do it. I think one of the biggest problem is finding people to have sex with.  I think the second biggest problem is finding people to have sex with again . I like to look for someone who has a kind heart, good spirit and wants to have fun. I like adventure and kinks and want to experience with and grow with many people.
I find this to be a challenge because it seems that it is not what people want and if it is, I am not communicating correctly or at least getting the messages or clues. I feel lost at times and because of it my confidence in me and my abilities suffer. I would love to find out what peoples views are on this or at least some practical tips that have worked for people.
I am eager and will not give up so I guess the basic question is that who wants to have sex and if you do with whom?
thank you
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curious experiment
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Posted:May 3, 2014 4:02 pm
Last Updated:Apr 18, 2024 12:25 am
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writing like life can be hard at times
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Posted:May 3, 2014 3:47 pm
Last Updated:Apr 18, 2024 12:25 am
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Hello there all,
I look upon all the blogs and posts and sometimes I wonder what can I write about? What topics do I think of to write? I would love to learn more about sex and different techniques. Love to hear from people about what they do to make it better for them and others. I am slowly working on that and learning more but patients is needed because like some people I would like to see some progress and results. I guess the biggest thing I can say is don't give keep trying. I am not going to stop and I will keep trying myself.
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The hallways of my dreams
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Posted:Apr 30, 2014 11:48 am
Last Updated:Apr 18, 2024 12:25 am
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Hello there,
I am the silverfox and I am new to the site. First off I would like to say that I am curious and kind of excited to see who is here and possibly make friends and more than friends. We all start out on our day with the expectations that all is going to go well and we will achieve at least some if not all our dreams and wishes. We don't start off with the thoughts that today I am going to screw up and make many mistakes that will hinder my dreams. Between both statements is the place we call life  where both things happen on our way to our goals, dreams and wishes. This is the hallways we travel to get to our dreams and at least for me it takes a lot of work and effort.
I got to admit though these hallways could use a good cleaning because there is so much junk in the way how is it for everyone else in trying to get to there dreams?
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