Where have I been? What to do now that I'm back...
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Posted:Aug 12, 2015 3:28 pm
Last Updated:Sep 17, 2015 12:09 pm
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It's been one heck of a busy two years! We (SpokaneVan and mysef) now have two little ones looking up to us for their every need. I've also had four surgeries over the last (almost) three years, two c-sections, one for each baby, and carpel tunnel & trigger thumb in each hand. Recovery from all of the above has been a long process, compounded with a fall on Christmas (2014) that injured my right hand again that still isn't fully healed.
Anyway, as the title sugests, we are now looking to re-enter "the lifestyle", the one where we get to have "naked fun time" with other people besides each other. Part of the reasoning for doing this now is, besides getting to have sex outside of our relationship, that we are both a little more comfortable in our own skins. While we are nowhere near "perfect", we've both dropped quite a bit of weight and are still shedding our "extra padding" and feeling a bit more confident!
We've also been discussing the terms of what we looking for. When we first started down this road, many years ago (I believe it was 8 years ago), we were only looking for a fabled "unicorn", a woman to experience together. We went on several dates, but nothing ever panned out. After a few years and no luck (and a trip to AVN as a vendor), we decided we would move to an "open reltionship". At this point, I enjoyed many experiences with several men, but mostly "one night stands" (that usually took place during the day as I still reserved my evenings for SpokaneVan). We spent a lot of time in the chat rooms and did develop some lasting friendships, but since the majoity of the people are on the other side of the state, we don't get to see them often enough and haven't seen them physically on over three years! After our first was born, we took a breakfrom the lifestyle entirely. When he was about a year old, we dipped our toes in briefly again. We went back to The White Rose (a wonderful place to go) and got reacquainted with a gentleman we had been friendly with before we left the lifestyle. After he went through some personalstuff of his own, he and I got together a few times, but sadly (for me) he left the lifestyle shortly after.
Then, we ended up pregnant again. We tookanother leave from this whole lifestyle again. Now, that baby is 6 months old and we have the want, need,whatever you want to call it, to get back out there and enjoy life again! However, having two small definintely makes that arder to do. We've worked that part out...only one of us makes plans on any given day, whether it's for a date or coffee or even something "mundane" like going out to play pool.
But, what are we looking for? How can we get what we want? We do have an open relationship, I trust him and he trusts me completely. We each have final veto power if there's something we don't like going on or a prospective playmate rubs us the wrong way. We are technically "swingers" too...though as the strictest of senses here, we don't usually find couples and/or actually "swap"...so while we have done it and I do consider us swingersas well, that doesn't really fit ourlife now.
What are we? We want to pursue actual relationships! Whether it's just a friend to hang out with, go shoppingor out to dinner, a shoulder to lean on, or someone to "fuck all night with"...we kind of want it all! Greedy? Maybe... Selfish? Not really. I don't care if he or she is dating/married/etc... as long as everyone involved knows about it. So, again, what are we? I would say we've moved into the category of "polyamoury". We played at this when we came back between . Neither of us were looking for the "wham bam thank you maam" stuff anymore. I found ONE other person to go out with and was very happy.
So, now where am I? Are you still with me in my ramble? I want to date. I want to be persued. I want to go to a movie, hold hands, make out, go to dinner (someplace that I can eat and not kill my diet), I want to FUCK like there's no tomorrow! And, I want to be home in time to put my to bed and kiss their dad goodnight. In a dream land where I can have everything, I'd love for this dream playmate to also be friendly with my other half (SpokaneVan) so that we can all go places together as a unit. How much fun would the fair be if we could all go together?
And in an odd twist of fate...he's getting all the dates, lol. Prior to having , I found myself to be a very busy lady while he only got to go out every now and then. Now, he's got several ladies lining up to go out with him andI've had two opprotunities and been stood up twice already! I have a third date coming up tomorrow, but haven't heard from him in three days dispite my best efforts. My heart races every time I think about it...am I going to be disappointed again? Will he show up? Will I leave thedate with wet panties if he shows up? Should I even bother wearing pantes?
Okay, enough out of me...until next time!
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What the Heck?
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Posted:Apr 5, 2012 7:03 pm
Last Updated:Oct 17, 2013 6:53 am
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Okay, I know it was an "option" when I took advantage of the year of free Silver membership to allow the "ptb" here to flirt and/or hot list members that "match" me. I also KNOW I opted to NOT do that!
So here's my "what the heck" for the week...Why am I getting emails from men who think I flirted with them? For the last several weeks, all I have been doing is logging in and checking my email (I haven't even been replying to any of it). How on earth did this latest "email dude" get a flirt from me?
One of these days I should really get caught up on my emails...I feel bad not sending anything to someone who took there time to email me, but in all honesty, with all those "Hi" emails I get from lonely guys thinking I checked them out and sent them an email...it gets a bit overwhelming most of the time! This is probably because I don't respond to them as I get them of course...because that would be the "logical" thing to do.
In other news, I haven't been on much because I'm 11 weeks pregnant and have the sex drive of a (something tiny with no sex drive at all). When I do feel frisky, I take a look around my home and realize it's been a few weeks since I paid ANY attention to keeping it "company friendly" and that just makes me tired thinking about cleaning it!
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We lapsed...
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Posted:Oct 7, 2011 8:42 am
Last Updated:Aug 13, 2015 11:27 am
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Well, our 4-month gold membership ran out at the end of September. Honestly, besides having the ability to drool over any page we liked and pester people with unlimited emails, it was no different from having the free one.
We met zero people using this site, even though we sent out lots of emails, flirted gratuitously, and did everything we could "do". So, we aren't going to pay for this site's service again...we'll use the free service to peruse the photos we can see and I'll still flirt, but it will more than likely only be with the people who have the ability to contact me/us, since we can't anymore.
An odd thing I noticed once it lapsed though...the constant "flirter" in AZ that has been basically stalking us since we upgraded, disappeared! Woohoo! I'm guessing it was a bot, and had assumed that for a while, because every time I would delete my "flirt folder" they'd pop back up within minutes!
Please contact us if you have the ability to still! We'll be around, but will also be moving on to another site...until we find what it is we are looking for at least!
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"Flirting"...
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Posted:Aug 8, 2011 8:47 am
Last Updated:Aug 24, 2011 9:15 am
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We all do it...and I'm not talking about the "Hey, how you doin'?" kind. Okay, bad example, but it's still early in the day. What I'm talking about is that little button found all over this site that lets you "wink, spank, kiss, wave, hug, or smile" at someone else without going through the "hassle" of actually stopping to send them a note (especially useful for standard members who cannot send emails)!
But, here's my beef with it...the people whose profile are "inactive or turned off"! Hello? Why are you flirting with me? If I could see your profile, I might be able to respond...but with yours turned OFF I can't even return the flirt!
Please, please, please...if you want to flirt with me, let me see who you are (or portray yourself as)!
Another thing that sets me off about the flirts are the incessant flirts from people who are no where near you...I have one or two that "flirt" with me almost daily. While it is nice to know "someone" thinks I'm cute/interesting/worth masturbating to, it does get old to have to "delete" the same one over and over again. As a general rule, if someone lives more than 200-300 miles away, they automatically go into the "never gonna happen" folder in my mind. We don't travel much due to the pets we have (hard to travel when you have chickens to deal with), so we won't be making special trips just for something we can do at home with each other, let alone going 4500+ miles for it! If you'll be in my "neck of the woods", tell me so you don't go straight to the bin!
Which leads me to the "hot list" feature...I love getting these! It lets me know who is interested in me in some form or another! As a standard member, I only set these for people I knew could actually contact me (silver & gold members), I sometimes "flirt" with standards because you can sort of say "me too!" in the form of a "flirt" back and, if you are very lucky, find each other on the IM system (boy does that need serious work!) or in a chat room (I love the regional rooms! But, stay in your region!). I get a lot of messages saying men have added me to their lists (the hot list thing again), however, due to my "cupid settings" I don't see them on my "who has me hot listed" tab. This, to me, sucks! All I get is the "no one likes you" message...when, I can look down at the alerts thing (annoying as it is) and see that "wow, 4 guys have hot listed me today!" So, why the discrepancy? Lady loving ladies like to know someone is jerking off to them too! I "could" change my profile to say I was looking for guys too...but that defeats the purpose of why I am here.
Also, the one setting you cannot change...what you are! As in, male/female/couple (of whatever variety)/etc... "We" use my single female profile as it was established much longer ago than our couples profile (which I don't believe we have logged into for several months if we didn't just outright delete it). So, if I were to change the settings, it would send the wrong message to all those horny guys looking for a quick fuck! They want to girls who are willing to meet them one on one (or with their buddies/wives/girlfriends), not a couple looking for another woman to share! So, "we" would like (love really) to change this profile to a couples profile...but if it can be done at all, it appears we have to go through some sort of customer support...I don't wanna. I just want to click a button, add his info and be done with it! Is it really that hard? It isn't like it is going to stop people from setting up a false account of an opposite gender or something...I saw a profile the other day, labeled as a female looking for other females with a name akin to "guy with a big dick"! Yeah...that's a woman...sure...anyone for that ocean-view property I own in Idaho? (I don't own property in Idaho, but you understand what I mean...)
So back to the point...turn on your profile before you flirt/message/hot list someone, please!
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I wrote something the other day...
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Posted:Aug 4, 2011 9:54 am
Last Updated:Mar 12, 2017 12:23 pm
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I won't re-post the whole thing here, I do after all, have other pages to support! But, here is a blip from a story I've written...
This dreamed up couple also completely tattooed (but nothing that “showed” with a few items of clothes on). The woman had jet-black hair with hot pink tips and pulled up into a messy bun, with pale white skin, and wore a thin black tank top and black panties with a small ruffle around them. Her partner was well muscled with a slight tan that did not appear to have any “tan lines” and closely cut hair, nearly shaved completely. His tattoos intrigued me the most! As I mentioned, none of them were visible with clothing on and when they arrived at our home, all I saw between the two of them was just a bit of wing from a dragonfly peeking out over the back of the thin shirt, just behind the edge where strap met material on the woman’s shoulder blade. They each had several, but the one that stood out the most in my head was a giant blue dragon whose wing span went from the small hip bone protrusion on one side to the matching protrusion on the other side! Gorgeous deep hues of blue that seemed to dance as muscled rippled beneath! Of course, no dragon is complete with just wings, the body extended south and the head/neck of the dragon was tattooed on his penis. It was a very detailed tattoo, similar but brighter in color than anything, I have ever seen before!
If you're interested in reading it in it's entirety....send me a note and I can point you in the right direction!
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To membership or not to membership...
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Posted:Aug 2, 2011 3:13 pm
Last Updated:Aug 8, 2011 12:22 pm
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We have enjoyed the "free" functions of this site together and separately for many years here. The last 2+/- months have been our only foray into a paid membership though. It is nice to be able to look at all the info for whomever we feel like as well as contacting them, but it hasn't resulted in anything more than our free memberships have!
The question is...do we pay for another 3+ months or do we just go back to a free account here and try another site?
We don't expect better results by simply moving to a new site, but we have read reviews on many of them and frankly, this site has a reputation for inflating their numbers for any given area. We don't live in a small town by any means, but when I search for our specific interests (ladies between 24 and 40 who want other ladies or a couple), we are met with the same 3 to 4 "active" members and pages upon pages of "inactive" people who haven't logged on in over 3 months! By this point, we have contacted the 3-4that are active or we looked at them as closely as we could here (read their profiles) and decided they really weren't a good match for us.
Also, we have sent out many emails with not even a "thanks, but no" as a response! Really, how hard is to say "you may like me, but I'm not interested"? We respond to every email/wink/whatever we get! I don't know how many emails I've sent that read:
Thanks for the wink! Your profile is pretty blank, why don't you tell me about yourself and we can see if we actually click at all!
or something along those lines...most standard members I have noticed don't bother to even put any effort into their ad...they do realize this is what paying members read to get a first impression, right? Heck, even the freebies get to read them sometimes! I don't know...maybe mine needs more work still, but at least it gives a starting point!
Well, I think we have until the end of the month to make up our minds...maybe things will pick up for us this month, last month was more than disappointing with several potential dates falling off the face of the planet!
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We find this amusing...
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Posted:Jul 15, 2011 8:08 pm
Last Updated:Aug 13, 2015 9:56 am
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So I have recently noticed men staring at me while I'm out and about. I'm sure it happens more frequently than I notice, it's something I have grown used to over the years (I have big tits, who wouldn't stare?) but the blatant staring has become even more "blatant". First, while I was at the airport early this week, there was a man sitting a few rows away waiting for the same flight. AT first I thought he was staring past me (skinny chicks abound and an entire girl's college team of something sitting within earshot of me...and boy was that a fun conversation to listen in on!), but it soon became apparent that while he may have been catching the occasional "ass glimpse" from them, he was staring intensely at my chest! To which I gave him a knowing smile and continued to sip my coffee while he got a "show".
I happened to wear the same shirt today out to dinner (an early dinner before we go to a late movie this evening). Again, I didn't think much of the staring. However our waiter would not leave us alone! More specifically, he wouldn't leave me alone. First, he stumbled over the drinks...we ordered two diet sodas (Pepsi where we were at). Then, he reached well passed my other half to give me my drink first (no issue there, I'm used to wait staff serving me first). He then returned within a few minutes, whilst we were deep in conversation discussing our date we had Wednesday night (which went well, but has it's own set of "issues") to interrupt our conversation to tell me about some email promotion thing they are running and could I please fill one out...yeah, no way this guy is getting any of my info! Every time he came over he tripped over his words and talked to my chest with my other half and I fully aware of what he was looking at. During our meal he interrupted us several other times as well. When he finally brought the bill, he shoved it right past my other half and nearly slid it into my lap (from the other side of the table)! He watched my other half put his card in the bill, but upon bringing the bill back, it again nearly landed in my lap as he stared at my tits! He also watched from across the room. For the number of times he interrupted our conversation, you'd have thought my drink would have at least been kept full or that a replacement would have come before my glass sat empty for the last half of my meal (which I had to send back to be fully cooked)!
The shirt is particularly low cut and drapey...and when I bend over, I (and, I assume, anyone really looking) can see clear to my pants with no issues. It also tends to lay open to one side, but doesn't show more than a little "top boob" even though it is slightly more "vee-ed" than a v-neck. It happens to be my favorite shirt, not just because it provides a decent "show"...it looks really nice on me and every time I wear it out (anywhere), someone comments on it. And, no...you can't see more that what you'd see over the top of a bra or swimsuit top, totally appropriate for wear around people of all ages! It's just a draped shirt!
All in all, it was a good dinner out! It seems it's been an excellent week for my "girls" too! It has been quite a long time since I've caught anyone besides my other half staring so intently at my chest!
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Those funky blue blobs...
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Posted:Jul 13, 2011 10:57 am
Last Updated:Mar 28, 2024 6:2 am
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Yep, I finally put up a recent photo! But, there's always a but (sometimes a butt), the photo was taken in an airport pub...therefore, people everywhere! Grainy and barely visible as actual people, but there they were...three of them, not including the person I cut out that actually took the "self photo" with me! If you know me well enough to know my "vanilla" blog...you know who I'm talking about, otherwise, you are just going to have to wonder who that little tiny bit of green shirt belongs to...
Anyway, back to the funky blue blobs...they are courtesy of Paint! I am completely inept when it comes to photo editing...maybe I will eventually get good at it, then I can just cut myself out of a photo, but until then...funky blue blobs it is! It isn't like my other photos are ancient...but, one was taken 4 and a half years ago, the other nearly 7 years ago! A lot can change in that amount of time, not much has...but still (see, another but).
In "funner" news, we have a date tonight! We're going to dinner with a lady that I haven't gotten to talk much to...with our nephew here and my complete inability to remember the web address to get me to that particular email account...I let my other half do all the talking this time. Unfortunately, that means he knows all about her, and I only know bits and pieces that were discussed over the few minutes at night between getting in bed and falling asleep. Should be fun though...wish she lived a little closer though, not that it's "far away", but I would love to find someone that lived close so I/we could spend a larger portion of time getting to know "them" (in this case, a single). At least this one has a job and a mode of transportation! Oddly enough, when we first ran an ad for the two of us...those were the two "minimum requirements" in the "ideal" person for us. The first person we met had a car, but no job (there's another but if you're counting )! The second had both, but was selling the car because she "didn't like driving anymore" and the last (whom we have given up on anything ever happening with) has neither a job or a car! Yes, there is the city bus system...but who wants to plan a date around the bus schedule?!?
I think that last paragraph was one long run-on sentence, pardon my grammar, lol.
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Unicorn Season has Arrived!
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Posted:Jul 8, 2011 8:52 pm
Last Updated:Jul 8, 2011 10:33 pm
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Sort of, lol. First off, we have been "busy" the last 3 weeks entertaining our young nephew and so we have put a mini stop to all "adult fun" activities until he goes home on Monday. However, in that time my other half has been perusing ads looking for a lady or two to meet after that! I think we may have 2-3 "first dates" semi-set up for next week! Woot! I know I am ready for some relaxing fun! Of course, those plans are all very vague and may fall through, but I am more than ready to do a little "unicorn hunting"! I'm also in desperate need of some "prep work" before then...it's really difficult to "maintain" a groomed lawn with a young in the house!
Yep...if you can't tell...I'm very excited to go back to a house filled with only adults, lol. I can go back to running through the house naked!
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Long Time, No Post!
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Posted:Jul 5, 2011 8:41 am
Last Updated:Oct 12, 2011 10:35 am
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The end of June and early July are always "busy" in our house...our oldest nephew, who is nearly 7, comes for a 3-week visit! That means no "adult fun" for that time period. But, this time next week, he (and I ) will be on an airplane taking him home! That means starting Tuesday, we have free time again, yeah! While I love having any of our nephews (sister is expecting nephew #5 currently) here...it is also really nice when they go home too!
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Dinner and then...
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Posted:Jun 10, 2011 7:14 pm
Last Updated:Mar 28, 2024 6:2 am
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Nada, zilch, nothing!
We have this "friend"...we met elsewhere but for the same reason anyone meets around here. I knew as soon as she asked what a "FWB" was that it really wasn't going to go anywhere, but hopeful that I am, we all went out to meet. It went "okay", not great and we kept it to a short meeting over dinner. The three of us went out several times and she and i went out on a night my other half was busy with his friends. Then, there was "scheduling issues" and we didn't see (or hear) from her for a month or so. That wasn't a huge deal as we had issues of our own going on as well, family visiting and such.
We went to a party at her house last month, we were expecting a few people and were actually glad that we had to leave early to get my other half to the airport for a flight when the little house started filling up! We aren't really "crowd people"... Since then, she and I have talked once on the phone. During that conversation, I made arrangements to go out with her the following day (my partner and I were getting a little fed up by the friends with no benefits routine and my plan was to actually sit down and find out what her thoughts on it were). Well, she called, I missed it because I was on the phone with my other half (who was out of town at the time) and when I called her right back, and I do mean right back, I saw who was calling but didn't get the phone answered before she hung up, but it went to her voice mail (an actual answering machine) and we hadn't heard from her since!
This last Wednesday, while I was not home, she called and wanted to go out...that night! Nope, that didn't happen, as I had the SUV (other half can't drive the truck, it's a manual) and wasn't there. So, she settled on dinner the following night (last night). She was leaving town today and wanted to get together before she left for several weeks. "Woot!" was a thought from our end, but a reserved "woot" at that. We've been slowly getting to know this gal for more than 6 months now...I'm bored! I guess I take on the typical "guy" role there, but then again I've always been a little more impatient than my guy when it comes to sex. He can wait for wait seems like ever...if I'm not getting what I want, I move on to someone who can (and will) give it to me! But, I was willing to give her another "chance", she did after all want to go out. So, we "trimmed the hedges" and spit shined the house (okay, so I shaved and vacuumed, sexy, right?) and planned to decide what we would do together over dinner that evening (local "adult" store maybe, finally get up the courage to check out the rumored "glory hole" maybe? Or even just a movie or games back at our place if things weren't going to head toward nakedness...). As we finished our meals though, she says "well, I hate to cut the evening short, but I want to go home now". You didn't want to cut it short you say? Hmm...sounds like you did to me!
So, I'm moving on! I don't intend to rest on my laurels while someone else decides whether or not they want to be in a relationship or not...you either do or you don't, if you aren't sure, you don't! I, of course, am alone in my readiness to move on...my other half was making plans with her for when she gets back, I plan on being "too busy", lol.
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Posted:Jun 6, 2011 8:30 pm
Last Updated:Jun 6, 2011 10:24 pm
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So, we've kind of been avoiding the newest Hollywood location on Wellsley because of something I read on here. We aren't really into a "glory hole" or shared movie experience as I had heard there was at the HEB. I guess now, we "have" to go check out the store on Division just to satisfy my own curiosty now though! The "new" location is nice, but sparse! If you really want the biggest dildo or butt plug you can imagine though, this is the place to go! They had a decent DVD selection too, but we are looking for a specific one so didn't spend too much time there. We're hoping to find the Pirates of the Carribean parody in the Blue-Ray collector's set...why have bad porn when you can go all fancy with it?!
It actually got the other half and I going on our "adult blog/web site" too! We have horribley neglected it this winter and need to get it off the ground, sooner rather than later...there really isn't anything like it for the Spokane area that we can find!
Anywho, Hollywood Erotic Boutique isn't on the top of my "favorite adult stores" list, but it was a pleasent surprise for a Monday evening when there wasn't a booby in site at the Northtown Mall, ha!
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